Marriages are made in heaven. But, who decides how they must be celebrated? In a typical arranged marriage, even if the bride is 30 and groom 35, it’s the parents who plot the event. They love doing it and what they enjoy more are contradictions of ideas emerging out of it. Often in a Coorg (Coorg is a district in Karnataka) wedding booze plays a role as important as the priest in any Indian wedding (meaning more liquor is equal to more blessings from the guests).
In a recent scenario, the groom’s side wanted wine to flow even during ‘Murtham’ and the bride’s side was not game for it. So guess what happened, the engagement broke. Is wedding a meeting of two hearts, an exchange of vows to never part from each other, or free distribution of alcohol? It is all the above, in this society which claims to be modern yet keeping alive its rich tradition and culture.
Such incidents do not happen just in this community. There are several similar stories in history in other sects too. What takes a back seat here is the emotions of those tying the knot. It is just like a trial period, where in you try the free software and then decide if you wan to go for it or not. While India continues to boast of successful arranged marriages, is it right for such trivial issues to break nuptial bonds?
This is so APPALING…. how ppl expect such stuff… jus cos they’re fr groom side this such a typical behaviour huh… shows how far we have reached but seems we are still there where we began…
ReplyDeleteThis is just the tip of the iceberg. Its a shame that a girl and guy who are old enough to be married cant make these decisions themselves. Pseudo westernised India we live in!
ReplyDeleteI love your style and topics you have written about. Good going Tina!
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